(THIS WAS A QUESTION- ANSWER MEETING MEANT FOR NEWCOMERS WHEREIN ELAEENAH AND SOHRAB ANSWERED QUESTION WITHOUT GETTING INTO TRANCE, BUT STILL MAINTAINING A CONNECTION.)

The spirit that you have to understand first has absolutely no quality. It just IS. And just being IS, it encompasses every single facet and quality. The personality, on the other hand, has what we have called positive and negative aspects. Compassion, as has been mentioned here, we would term as a positive aspect. If the person had asked about, lets say a quality of being harsh and bitter or self-opinionated, we would have called that a negative aspect.

Why is it that the personality takes on these aspects when spirit just IS? The reason is, when spirit incarnates in different life times, it opts for different experiences. It is important to first understand that when we talk of a spirit getting its experiences, we really are looking at the first few incarnations. It does not mean that in every incarnation I have come here to experience something. That is the first myth that must be understood, that our first few incarnations we take out of pure experience. So I may want to experience at that time being a murderer or having been raped or being very good and kind, being rich, being poor all may be the various dual aspects that we see.

Once those experiences are over, our incarnations are not for the purpose of experience. It’s for the purpose of overcoming the experience of duality. That is why you have personality. All the experiences that you have gone through have given you a conditioning… a conditioning of your mind, a conditioning of the soul. When I use soul, I am referring to that part of spirit that lives within the incarnated being. Because it lives within the incarnated being, it is naturally influenced by the personality itself and so the soul gets a conditioning of its own. You and I today, I can most confidently say, are not living incarnations of experience. Now we are being incarnated to understand that we have done whatever we have done out of conditioning. That conditioning we bring with us again because if we did not bring with us again, how would we overcome it?

First of all, why did we incarnate? What was the purpose of incarnating on this planet? The purpose was to attempt, to try out the experience of duality. That was the idea. "Let me see, what is this duality"? Spirit only knows unity. Spirit wanted to experience duality. In that first moment of being incarnated, spirit was completely aware that when you take even one experience of duality, unless now spirit deliberately and consciously moves towards unity and becomes unity, it would have to incarnate again and again till the entire experience of duality has been completed. There is then no opting out. So, as spirit, all of us were aware of this and yet we took this experience. We have already experienced all of duality.

Now is the time for us to understand that today, personality is functioning out of that conditioning. That is only one aspect of conditioning. We also have the conditioning of the present but present environment is not as important. Present environment plays an important part only to become a catalyst to trigger that past conditioning. So if that past conditioning has what my soul, which is in the incarnated being, that if I do not hoard, I will be in poverty because that is an experience I lived through which I have yet not overcome. Today when present conditioning brings me to a family, lets say of parents who only accumulate and refuse to share, that present conditioning is only a trigger to awaken my past conditioning. Why should this be awakened? So that now, I’m able to see that this was only duality that I experienced. In unity, there is no lack and there is no abundance because again, if we say there is abundance, we at once are not saying that there is lack. So there is no lack and there is no abundance. This is what I have to overcome. So, all facets that we look at are only facets of personality. They are helpful to us to overcome this personality experience of duality. Let me point out here when you took an example of compassion. Again, it is a personality facet not part of spirit. Does it then mean that being compassionate is therefore wrong? Nothing is wrong but it is a part of duality because as soon as you attempt to strengthen, focus, emphasize one part of personality, you are at once, and again you are at once not saying that there is another part that exists. So yes, be compassionate but know that compassion comes out of personality. Spirit would not even have to think, "Am I being compassionate? Am I being harsh"? Spirit would know that spirit can never be compassionate, spirit can never be harsh.

Having answered this first question, this really answers there is no crime in the spirit world at all. And why is there no crime? Because the spirit world is One. There is no "you" and "I" in the spirit world. There is only One dominant, omnipresent, omniscient spirit. If you want to call that spirit God then you are God. Really it depends on your reality of how comfortable you are with that statement. Can you, very proudly say, "I am God" and believe it completely? Or do you think that it is coming out of ego? Because there is only God. There is nothing like ‘no-God’. If you had to look for an opposite of God, you would look for personality. Otherwise there is nothing like ‘no-God’, so there is no crime’. And why should murder be considered as crime? How can you and I pass any judgment? Would it be wrong to take someone’s life because I want someone’s money but when I take someone’s life to protect my child, it is right? How does the environment judge this? Does this not mean then that my idea of right and wrong is so superficial it can change with changing situations? So there is nothing like a wrong. There is no crime.

What then is karma, you may ask, if there is no wrong and there is no right? People talk of karma. Let us take this same e.g. of murder. Because I am personality at present, I have not reached the unity of being God. I have committed a murder. When this incarnated or embodied self of mine drops away, the soul is free from the personality direction. Suddenly the soul can see as clearly as spirit because soul is spirit. The only reason why we give it another word and call it soul is so that we understand that the soul is embodied, spirit is that which is disembodied, but really everything is only spirit. So soul sees with the clarity of spirit. Now when soul sees with the clarity of spirit, soul understands that what I did caused pain to another part of me because I saw that person as something separate. Now I understand and remember that there is no separation. So what I really did is to cause pain to me. When this acknowledgment is made, when this awareness comes through, in its next incarnation the soul will ask for some situations wherein the soul can experience probably the same pain or the soul needs some experience to kind of put a salve on the pain of another. Its what the soul wishes to do. The soul is not punishing itself, it is only being united. In its unity it knows that I need an experience to undergo so that I know there is no separation, there is only unity.

Let us take this question of taking someone’s life and taking your own life. Taking your own life…many, many spiritualists have considered it as completely heinous, as something that is even worse than murder. Taking one’s own life does not, similar to murder, does not regress your path on ascension. It does not at all show that you are unevolved or less evolved than someone. Often we have been told that in fact a murderer may be a far more evolved spirit being than you may be.

Let us take this dichotomy. We have three bodies, spiritual, mental and the emotional. We are not looking at the physical….that is very evident. The spirit self looks after your spiritual body. We really do not have to do anything for the growth of our spiritual body. It ascends and evolves by a matter of course. We have to work on our mental and emotional body. That growth has to be in relation with the spiritual growth. Very often so many people have said, "You are so spiritually evolved. I can see that". Sometimes my question to them is, "If I am all that spiritually evolved as you make me out to be, why am I still so harsh with my children? Why do I still have so may bitter rows with my husband? Why am I still so self-opinionated? Shouldn’t I not be all this?" And I was told; I am all this because my mental and emotional bodies have not kept up with my spiritual body, so there is a hiatus. It is for personality to overcome duality and only then will mental and emotional move. Spiritual body moves on its own, it does its own thing. That is what is called the Higher Self. So taking your life is a personality related action. Again when ego is free from embodiment, it is able to see that it gave in at a point when it could have fought. That is all. It didn’t do anything wrong. As personalities, we all have our moments of complete despair when we feel that there is just no hope and sometimes there is no one to whom we can listen. They may tell but we don’t listen. Does that mean that I have done something wrong? No. So when I go back as spark, as soul, as spirit and I look at it with clarity, then I understand, "My God, I had only a little more to go through and I gave in at the wrong time. I wish I had just run those few more paces and I would have crossed that line so beautifully". So then what do I do? Then when I come back into incarnation, I now first learn strength. I learn endurance. I learn not to give up, even though sometimes I don’t see the finishing line. I learn faith that there is a finishing line, which is called unity and the reason why I didn’t see it is because I didn’t have faith in unity. I forgot I am God. So maybe then I will take on a life that may not be so easy. And why have I taken on this life? To punish me? No. I have learnt strength. So now personality wants to experience strength. And how will I experience strength if I choose a very easy life for myself? So the options that I put into my blueprint may be slightly difficult but there is no heinousness, there is no crime. There is just a personality that sees duality and does not see unity. That is all.

There is no destiny of suicide. Never. Suicide can never be part of a blueprint.

No punishment at all. You may undertake to experience the same pain, only to understand. If for e.g. I turn around and slap Sohrab very hard and then I realize that Sohrab and I are one. What I did was hurt myself. I know that but I want to experience that. What did Sohrab feel, physically, mentally, and emotionally? What did he feel when I slapped him before a room full of people? If then I opt to go through that same experience, I’m doing it, not out of punishment but to learn.

Each one of us goes to a different school, don’t we? Why? Why don’t we all go to one school? Because we go to a school that teaches in the manner I am comfortable with. So maybe for me, being slapped in the same manner by another is a way I learn my lesson. So I just want to learn, I just want to experience. As soon as this experience teaches me something, it teaches me, "Ahh! Now I understand that Sohrab and I are one. That there was only unity". There is only unity, so there is no punishment.

No. There is no heaven and there is no hell. None. None at all because if you are living a good life in order to gain a reward, again it comes out of a personality based need to get something in return. So there really is no reward and there is no punishment at all. What really happens is the growth of your mental and emotional bodies. You see, the greater the hiatus between your spiritual body and the mental and emotional body, the more you will go through the kind of conflict that I go through so often. How can some people tell me that I’m so evolved when every single day I do things, which at night I wish I hadn’t done? How can there be evolution when I haven’t learnt those same lessons that I am preaching? And does this not only make me a parrot because I’m not doing it? I’m trying so hard but I am never winning. The reason is the hiatus still exists and if I don’t fill that hiatus with instant love, the hiatus will be filled with those aspects of personality that we have come to overcome. So that hiatus of mine gets filled with criticism, judgment because for me and for each one of us, we have to remind ourselves, fill that hiatus with love, fill it with love. At present it doesn’t happen automatically and when we don’t remember to do this, the hiatus is filled in by aspects we want to overcome and they keep coming back and you feel "I’m always fighting a battle but I never win".

You completely intervene if you are seeing it. Let us take an example. There are several times you have intervened when you have seen someone is in trouble. Sometimes you have been able to help, others you haven’t. Why? Because the Higher Selves of all involved know that help must not be given. In another situation, the Higher Selves know far more than the embodied soul and certainly far more than your mind that yes, the experience is over. She need not be actually raped because the forerunning has already given her the experience. Duality has already been completed, seen as unity completely. Now you will say, is it seen at the conscious level? No it is seen at the level of the mental and emotional bodies. That is why I said our physical bodies are not really important, physical thought processes even less important.

Several times when we have asked Masters questions pertaining to the lives of prophets, they have asked us why do you need to know? And if we really wanted the answer the only answer that Spirit would give would be NOW. So, I’m sorry the answer is NOW.

First of all, one must understand what is meditation. It is not sitting in an upright posture, eyes closed, trying to focus on something. That is concentration. As a teacher, I teach this to my students because they need to concentrate on various activities. How can you teach another meditation? Meditation is the process by which every moment you are attempting to overcome personality. That is meditation. So when you work, you cook, you play, you shout, you scream, you have a fight there is meditation.

How do you learn to visualize? Yes, not all of us are visual. I personally have a great difficulty if someone says visualize a garden. I have absolutely no clue what to do. So I make up my own garden but I still can’t see it. So you don’t visualize. You have other senses that are strong. Why must you only visualize? You see, we put so many burdens on ourselves. Someone teaches us meditation and that person is able to visualize beautifully and then that person shares their experiences with you and that person says, "I saw a garden and I saw the stream and I heard the birds and I smelt the flowers" and you wonder, "Oh my God, I didn’t see anything." But didn’t you realize that person got lost in his visualization. He was so busy creating a picture he forgot that meditation is unity. So don’t bother with these little things.

In fact, that is compassion. Again remember, it is personality based. A spirit knows that the only decisions are ones that spirit makes. If a person asks you for help definitely give a suggestion, advice, counseling but add one more statement that you do not add. Tell them, "This is what I, from my personality based orientation, feel is right. I really don’t know if it is what you need but because you have asked me for my opinion, this is what I have to offer." And then, don’t beat the person up because they don’t take that advice. As teachers and mothers, we do it all the time. I tell my child, "You are old enough, make a decision". What I’m really saying is that "You’d better make the decision I would make". Isn’t that true because as soon as another decision is taken, in some, sometimes very subtle, sometimes direct way, do we not put them down? So you have to allow others to decide. You have to stand by and know that they are going through their experiences of duality just as you are. And then you have to know one more greater, even more abstract truth. You have to know that YOU are going through that experience and YOU are going through the experience of giving another a choice. There is only one going through the experience. That abstract truth you have to be aware of.

And then ego says why must I keep giving when he doesn’t take. The idea is spirit gives because spirit IS. Spirit only knows expanse. There can be no blackmail. That is a blame game.

Here you have a good opportunity to give of yourself, to expand your spirit. Emotional blackmail is the best blame game we play. Why did I do this? She said she would commit suicide if I didn’t. You haven’t taken responsibility for yourself, how can you take responsibility for someone else? So spirit has to expand, spirit has to envelope, spirit has to love, spirit has to guide and then spirit has to stand back and see the unfolding drama of duality.

You are asking me to validate your choices.

You have already met them. Just look around. And how can there be a twin when there is only one. So if you really want to meet another twin, what you are meeting, is another twin in embodied form. So go and hug anyone and then look around and say, "My God! I’m so big. And if only a small part of me is all of this in one room, this could be only my small toenail." How can you meet your twin although we may love to? And do you know that this is something that we use to sometimes to deceive ourselves especially in romantic situations? We deceive ourselves by saying this is my twin soul. And then sometimes, when that twin soul has feet of clay suddenly you go searching for another twin soul.

This will be my last question.

How can one improve will power?

First of all, which will are you looking at? If you are looking at determination, if you are looking at perseverance, dedication, seeing everything through that you start, that is so easy. That doesn’t require any help. When you’re looking at the power of the Will of Divine Unity, you don’t have to develop it, it is already there. You only have to access it.

How do you access it is your question. By knowing, by having the belief that you are God. Never doubting it and in a moment of doubt when there are two options, merely going to that part, wherever you may think that part is where spirit lives and seeing yourself and now asking, "What do I do"? You have to access the power of your will. You don’t have to develop it.

The personality based will… why is it that sometimes determination is not there? That many, many of us start some enterprise but can’t see it through. That comes out of many, many deep emotional and psychological pain roots that we have to touch. We all have several points of pain within us. Some are superficially based because they have been received in this incarnation, we can touch them easier. Other points of pain we have received in incarnations so far back that with veils of forgetfulness, we sometimes even forget that it happened and every time a moment of determination comes, you falter. Maybe, (I’m just giving an example), maybe at one point in some incarnation, you were a very determined leader who said something and never went back on it. There was rigidity and obdurateness in your determination, which caused you and maybe the tribe that you led a great deal of harm, when compromise or giving in would have been the better option. The soul, when out of embodiment, saw that. Now the soul remembers, do not be rigid. But when you come into personality focus again, sometimes this mind translates rigidity to determination and then what you say is determination is what caused it, when it wasn’t. It was rigidity. So at the least inkling of any kind of hardship or difficulty, you give up. Don’t try and develop your will but if there are those moments in your lives grab them. Learn out of them. "Why am I not determined, even when I have the power of will, which I can access? Aah! That means that there is some thing, some point of pain, which I must reach". Personality must reach. Emotional and mental body must reach.

Thank you everyone.

Why is it difficult for parents to let go of their children? How should children deal with that?

Perfect question to ask me when I’m not a parent. (laughter) What is letting go? Letting go implies that in the first place they belong to you, which they don’t. All of us seem to forget that everybody is a separate soul. The children born to you are independent souls who have chosen to come to you for a certain set of experiences. Simultaneously, you have undertaken to have them in your family, not only to give them those experiences but to also learn from them. So it’s a two-way contract. Parents do not belong to children. Children do not belong to parents. So how can you let go?

You have many options with your children. You are their guardians, especially when they are young they are under your care. Yes, you are definitely there to nurture them and guide them but you are not there to impose your will upon them, your desires, and your aspirations, which most parents insist on living out through their children. When you understand this fully, where you are there to love them unconditionally, support them and guide them, mind you guide them, not force them into the direction you want them to go, then there can be no question of letting go because you have already let go.

Let us take a practical example. Your child wishes to go abroad to study. You have two options. You send that child away with complete love knowing that sending them abroad is going to better their opportunities and help guide their career and you release them to a foreign university with love. Of course, you are going to miss them. Of course, you are going to feel that pain. Yes, they may never come back to you when they decide to stay there, live there and make their lives in another country thousands of miles from you. But you do it because you love them and you release them willingly. You have another option. You send them grudgingly because that’s what you should be doing, that’s what all your friends are doing with their children and how can you go against society? So you send them grudgingly and you call on the phone once a week and you say, "Oh! I’m so glad you’re there but I miss you horribly. My life is so empty without you. I wish you were here but actually I’m glad you’re there." It would have been better not to send them in the first place. That’s not letting go. You have physically let go but the emotional pull by far the stronger is even tighter now. So letting go cannot exist when you never had them in the first place.

There is no destiny which someone else has imposed on us. There is this strange manipulative God who sends us down and makes us go through all sorts of trials and tribulations, pain and suffering because my destiny is being guided by this rather strange person in the universe. Yes, there is a guiding force but everything is chosen by you. Your path you analyze. You place before yourself, as has been explained earlier, situations that you wish to experience. Within those situations are what are called, cornerstones, which are inflexible. You will under any circumstances, experience those cornerstones but those cornerstones have been placed by none other than you. So yes, implacable destiny exists. Outside the cornerstones are certain life choices, this part or that. We are not talking here about karmic choices. We are talking about free will choices. So that too is destiny of a form but one forgets that either this path or that becomes the destiny. So yes, in simple terms, destiny does exist but not as some superimposed will of another. It is ones own choice.

One more.

Do you think you’re ready? Then you are.

I’m sorry but I’m being asked to say something. I have been getting the urge to say one thing and now I’m permitted to say it, to talk very, very briefly on the word "joy".

This has been explained before but for many of you who weren’t there, think of the word "joy", that elusive part of our life. We keep saying, "Where is my joy gone? I’ve lost joy". J-O-Y. ..Joining Yourself to OM. Really it should be J-Y-O…Joining Yourself to Om but then you place the Om within you and it becomes JOY. The three alphabets. The J… connection from the base, from the earthly up to the Divine and spreading out in all directions, taking in universal energy, full universal knowledge, full universal comprehension. The O, of course the symbol of Om, the symbol of life, the circular motion, the wheel, the dot, the circle that is the basic format of the universe, every atom, every molecule, every pattern, every thought process goes through the circle of Om. And the Y, the perfect connection, universal connection down to earthly connection and back. Also a three pronged attack. All of you know the symbolism of the number 3, very significant in the universe, the Holy Trinity, the 3 aspects of life. Place these together, joining yourself to Om.

How can you convince anyone about something that is? When teenagers rebel and say, "This is all crap. There is no God", they are speaking the truth. All this striving and pushing and attempting on your part is really all crap. There is no God. There is You. So the teenager is completely right. What you are trying to convince him is your version of the truth and that they will not take.

Why? As time passes and souls incarnate naturally with the passage, spirit has expanded even further so that embodies part is naturally more expansed than those of the previous generation. In its expanse, it has the memory of far greater wisdom. It will not accept that which you call wisdom and wish to push down their throat. So what if the teenager does not believe in God? Does the teenager believe in himself? Have you ever questioned that? Does the teenager have self-worth, self-esteem? Does he love himself? If he doesn’t, who is this illusionary being that you want him to believe and love? First encourage him. Say that you are there to promote self-love, self-worth. Then that teenager remembers he is God. So what the teenager is telling you is right. It is all crap. Without love, without self-esteem all of this is crap because it only becomes another crutch for you. All crutches are crap. The wise teenager can see it and you don’t like it that the wise teenager can see your crutch. That is when you rebel.

What is really interesting is that your personality-based idea of death is what you carry with you because at the moment of death and very soon after, the link between personality and the disembodied soul is still very strong. So if your idea of death is one of heaven where there will be a garden, angels, St. Peter, Golden Gate, harps, you will see all that. It will be created by the energy for you, so that the transition is smooth, gentle. If your idea is that of a hell, "I have done all these really bad things and I’m really going to suffer. There will be demons and devils and fire". That will be what you will see. It is your own thought energy that creates that.

Will you meet the Masters? Of course you will because at that point, your thought is strong enough, will create that image. But if you go with the complete knowledge that there are no Masters separate from you, that there is only unity, you will just become part of Golden Light and have no vision, no thought, no such experience.

By transforming the lower. That is the only way. There is so much talk now, so much on the net, in books about the antakarana, the bridge between higher and lower. There is no bridge. You create that. Every time a small personality-based energy is transformed into God consciousness, there is unity in that area. By attempting more and more of this transformation, you access Higher Self. No, I’m wrong. You don’t access Higher Self, you become it. The only way is to transform the lower. That is the purpose of this incarnation. There is no other purpose. The purpose of this incarnation is not to ascend, not to evolve, not to become spiritual. You already are. When you are spirit, where else are you going to ascend? There is nowhere else. It’s all now. It’s all here. In small gradual steps, stop doing and be God conscious. Eventually there will be transformation from lower to higher.

It is possible and it is all the time. When do we ever feel that we have done enough? That’s the name of the game. You see what happens is till this question keeps coming, till the conflict is present, it is only an indication to tell you, "Listen, my friend, you are still being driven by personality, not God consciousness." And that’s a good eye opener. So what if it happens? Yes, I regret it every night too but I also know that I can’t all of a sudden change and though I beat myself up, the beating has now become gentle pats rather than the whipping I used to do. Isn’t that a transformation? And it happens gently. Don’t expect to make quantum leaps.

Once again, self-doubt. Which self are you talking of? The Self that is Divine Unity or the self that is your personality? The truth is we doubt both. Neither do we have complete and absolute faith in unity, in the fact that I am God nor do we have complete faith in our personality. When there is so much doubt both selves suffer. You are trying so hard to move from lower to higher. You have all these illusions about lower and higher. As soon as you say that, you put yourself down. As soon as you put yourself down, every moment is a moment of doubt for you. Am I right? Why is it so important to be right? Why can I not be wrong? Why don’t I give myself the freedom to be wrong? Please, look back on a simple school day. The days when you made mistakes were when you learnt more. You didn’t like it. The zeros didn’t appeal to you but you learnt through them. So why is it so important to be right? Have so much faith in your own personality, so much love for all that you are without labeling it good and bad that whatever you do is always right. Have so much faith in self of unity that you know there is no wrong and right.

Like all other prophets, Zarathushtra too was that part of Divine Unity that took birth in that particular incarnation in a divine form, which means, veils of forgetfulness were deliberately placed very thin. Why? Only because the purpose of that soul, at that point of time was to move Earth consciousness from one level of energy to another. And there have been so many who have come for this mission. We tend to cling to them and make them our Gods but don’t you understand you are also a Zarathushtra, a Jesus, a Krishna? Isn’t that also your mission? But whereas theirs took on an earth dimension, yours is taking on a personal dimension. You have incarnated at this moment in order to make this world move from one energy level to another. And yet you feel Zarathushtra is more important. As important. Its just that his mission took on more people, yours takes on one. Again, aren’t you looking at it from separation? More and one. Are they really different?

By living it. Short and sweet.

……… that this child’s light shines brightly. Do we mean she is imbued with some universal glitter or shine? No, my dears, light is an aspect of high being, like which I know all that I am. It is not the physical light that shines through your lamp. Light for you is information, knowledge, knowing. It is light because it helps you remove what you call the veils of ignorance or darkness. That is why you find light is expanding. The more you know about self and its highest potential, all that you are, all that is. When you know what you are, you see the oneness, you know the oneness. You do not need to try. When there is oneness, there is fearlessness. Who or what will you fear? When there is fearlessness, there is the joy of your being, all that you chose to be. You can then choose joyfully to be whatever you chose in whichever reality. That, my dears, is love. When all of you are what you chose to be, what we chose to be, what I chose to be.