2004-04-04
Good evening.
What a special day is today with this date, 04.04.04. 2, 4, 8. 2 and 4 are power giving energies and 8, has the power to remove energy. Of invaluable significance in any environment. In any situation there is no perfection. There must be a small duality that gives it strength. There are numbers that will take you today on new and brilliant journeys, but there is also this one number, which if you hold on to, can remove that power from you.
In this context, we wish to briefly discuss independence, dependence and interdependence and to then link it to what you just discussed, attachment vs. support, strength. After that, we will bring here in our midst those embodied souls who were completely responsible individually, for ensuring that this instrument cleaned herself so that she may be ready now for the next step of the journey.
What therefore is dependence, independence and inter dependence? Let us take the example from this child (Elaeenah) herself. When she was undergoing various processes with specifically two important souls, that soul that you know as Meheru and the other who (Khursheed) is so much at unease in the other city (Poona). Did she "depend" upon them or was her process "independent" or was there "inter dependence"? Yes, when she started, she started with veils of personality and ego and arrogance and fear, all of which were so dense, so thick, that she almost leaned upon the beautiful Meheru because her own soul did not have the strong feet required for her to stand. This dependence was encouraged at this point. She needed to fall back on this individual. This kind of dependence continued for a while when every single moment of issue resolution brought forth tremendous outpourings of pain. She also depended upon her councillors, her guides, who were there with her at those times. Then came a stage when her personality had dropped a large part of its denseness and given her own soul spirit the strength to stand. But dependence had become a habit and she continued to depend upon the child making no decision without that child’s help. Remember, however good a medium is, a medium is also a human being, has personality like you do. Do you not feel good when someone depends upon you? Are you not then, at some stage, flattered that your opinion is sought, time after time? Do you consciously make a move to push that person away? Very rarely. And this same process began with this child. Not only did she depend upon the child, she also depended strongly upon her councillors and the guide.
It was then that she was urged to become independent. That is the 2nd stage, which each one goes through, not only for mediumistic training. It is a phase, which each one goes through in all relationships. So you go through a stage of being independent, relying only upon yourself. She was urged to do this but this child did not, as so many of you find dependence a habit so difficult to break. It was then that with her own Higher Self agreeing, her support was taken away. She completed one phase of training, where then that child Meheru had no more to offer. She was told now to start on her own group. Not only that, but the guide that she was depending upon, moved away. Now there were no walls for her to lean against. She fell, as you all do, but none of you stay down. Some stay down longer, some a little shorter, but eventually you all stand up, and this time you realize that you do not need to lean against someone. This brings with it a personality directed thrill, like a child who for the first time takes two tottering steps and does not fall. Have you then seen how the child behaves? Every time the mother puts her hand out to hold his hand, the child will move away. "No", he says, "I can now walk independently". This is the phase that you go through, where you then reject all help, all suggestion, and all guidance because you are thrilled at your new-found ability to ‘stand’. But sooner or later, the child comes to steps that it has to climb, but doesn’t know how. It tries to walk in the same way as it did on a flat surface and bang! It has a nosebleed. That tells the child, "When I climb, I need to hold mummy’s hand".
This is the process now of interdependence that starts. The child knows, "I have the power to stand on my own and yet, in situations where I am lost, mummy’s hand should not be brushed away." That brings about the beautiful growth of a relationship. As the child grows, mummy’s hand is held, not to help the child, but to help the old mother. Both now, depend upon each other and yet do not lean back, becoming a burden.
This is the 3rd stage in your growth, where you are interdependent with us. You and I. We, one. Grow together. Move together. Sometimes you hold our hand to climb and often, though you do not know, we hold your hand to climb. So being interdependent does not mean that you have suddenly become weak. It means that you have so much strength, that you are able to now see and honour your own weakness. Pure acknowledgement, awareness of your weakness is not enough. Honour it. If it were not for that weakness, would you not have gone on your way and not held our hand? And what a beautiful part of our relationship would have been left incomplete.
But now you’re asking, isn’t then there some attachment? No, there is support. An attachment takes place, when it did when this child was dependent on her guide. She clung, like she had not clung to anything before and refused to let the guide move. She did not realize that not only did she hinder her progress but also her guide’s. Her guide could not move away to another upon whom he could now focus attention because she was holding him back by a tight rein. That is an attachment. Otherwise knowing that help is at hand whenever you need it, not being ashamed of asking for help, is the strength of support.
Many, many of you feel, "How can I ask for help"? There are also jokes, are there not, dear one, about men never asking for directions on a road? The spouse says, "Should we stop and ask"? "No, I know the way". Ten minutes later, "Should we stop and ask"? "No, I know the way". Fifteen minutes, one hour, till finally, "I think this map is all wrong". (Laughter) But you will not ask the way. And so often, you have these uselessly spent hours in your lives, when you went around in circles, absolutely certain that you know the way. So what if you do? Does it make you small to reconfirm? Do you not ask us for validations all the time?
Now, how do you support another and how do you prevent an attachment from being formed? Attachments form easily because one ego’s need feeds upon another ego’s needs. If this child were to tell her how much she is needed, that her presence is invaluable, her judgment is what is being relied upon, her ego need to be applauded, praised, flattered, is being fed. This child’s ego need to be constantly stroked, pampered, cuddled is also being met. How easy for an attachment to form. Both are so happy, and yet this happiness is short lived. There will come a time when this child may turn around innocently and ask her (someone else’s) opinion and she (the first person) will be very angry. "Why did she not ask me this time?" This anger will not be expressed but the next time this child asks, the answer will be short. "You make up your mind" or "Why don’t you ask her"? Not all that subtle, is it? Conflict now begins, where now the two egos, instead of merging, are rearing their heads against each other.
Support has no question of being ego directed. It is soul focused. You can never give support only when it is asked. How often husbands make this excuse, "If you needed my help, why did you not ask me? How am I supposed to know"? (Laughter) True? Support is experienced by the soul. The soul, when it is in close communion with another, instantly knows the moment its support is required. How it is required emotionally, physically, materially? In what form? The example we can give you here is of this child and her guardian (Roxanne). This child meets her guardian very, very rarely, if they are having a workshop or in a social situation. But the guardian is so closely in communion with her soul, that the moment this child needs support, a message goes to the guardian’s soul instantly, not only that she requires support, but what kind. You, my little one,(Divyaa) have also on numerous occasions felt this, known before she tells you, because you keep thinking of her, but because the soul communion is not that close yet, you cannot pinpoint the exact support needed.
So soul communion is required, not a physical closeness. Then support can be received without shame, humility, or ego and Support can be given without vanity, arrogance, and ego. If you wait all the time for someone to ask you for help, sometimes you may keep waiting and so many wonderful opportunities will be lost. Awaken your own sensitivity of the soul so that your soul, though not in close communion with everyone, will at once pick up an energy imbalance in another and will be present to right that energy imbalance. And why must you do it only for one or two? If you have been able to completely acknowledge, recognize and accept that each one is only a small part of the unity, then you will not limit yourself to one or two. It will spread to all. And you do not need to go up and say, "I think you are in trouble and need my help". No. Sometimes, just standing close to a person, a small touch, an embrace says it all.
How many of you are so scared of talking to a person who has just lost a dear one? "What do I say? How can I just say I am sorry"? And so you don’t say anything. You don’t need to say. You just need to hold that person warmly. Let your love spread so completely that that person can take the support of your love in whatever manner the person desires. Why are you so embarrassed by death when it attacks someone else? It is almost as though you feel guilty that it knocked at your neighbour’s door and not at your own. Why the embarrassment? Others cover up the embarrassment by an extravagant show of sorrow. How foolish! Only the mother who has lost her dear one knows the sorrow, not you. You can only have an intellectual understanding that it must be hurting but you do not hurt. So all you need to do is to reach out to another with your arms open wide. What are you saying? You are saying, "I don’t have the universe to offer you but whatever I have is yours, for however long you wish it to be".
And do you have something so limited that you can only give it to one person? The more you give, the more you will have to give. Your arms will keep opening wider and wider and soon you will realize you are giving the universe without any conscious ego awareness. That is when soul communion is complete.
And today, with these very powerful energies, let all the souls gathered here commune and with our collected strength, let us send this energy to all those individuals, who are completely and directly responsible for this child’s growth. They must be acknowledged and thanked and let their energies merge with your own.
Dearest one Meheru, be present in our midst. In love and honour, joy and gratitude, respect and dignity, we thank you for using your energy power to empower this child Elaeenah and thus to empower us all. We open our energies to you for your use, in whatever way you desire, for however long you desire, for whatever purpose you desire. (Pause)
Dearest beloved guardian Roxanne, we ask you to be present with us today. In love and honour, joy and gratitude, respect and dignity, we thank you for empowering in all situations, at all moments and at all times now, in the past, and in the future, the strength of the soul of Elaeenah and thus empowering us all. We expand our strength and we open ourselves up at all levels of our being, so that you may draw upon our power and use it in whenever you desire, for however long you desire, and for whatever purpose you desire. (Pause)
Dear beloved Khursheed, we ask you to be present with us today. In love and honour, joy and gratitude, and with complete respect and dignity, we thank you for so carefully watching over the energy expansion and progression of Elaeenah and of us all. We send out our energy strands to merge with your grid so that you may use our power whenever you desire, for however long you desire and for whatever purpose you desire. (Pause)
We now request the presence of Elaeenah’s biological mother and father, her two children, Sanaeya and Jehangir, and her dearly beloved husband, Yezaad. In love and honour, joy and gratitude, respect and dignity, we thank you for giving Elaeenah the freedom, physical, mental and emotional, to grow. In true dignity and complete understanding, we thank you and respect you for being instrumental in teaching her vital lessons of the ego. We open our soul energies to you to be used now and forevermore in whatever way you may desire, for whatever purpose you may desire and for however long you may desire. (Pause)
We now request the presence of all her dearly beloved relatives, friends, sister and all, all you dear ones here and everywhere to be present with us now. In love and honour, joy and gratitude, respect and dignity, we acknowledge, recognize and reward all your efforts, which have been so magnificent in aiding Elaeenah to remove her veils of forgetfulness. As you opened yourselves with love, we extend to you the universal power of true love essence to be used by you in whatever way you desire, for whatever purpose you desire and till all times, till merger with Unity is complete.
Be Light.