Before we answer this question, dear one, we would like to explain the true difference that lies between feeling and emotions. And you will then realise for yourself, that many times, what you call Emotions is only a feeling. Let us first explain to you feeling. When a word is spoken to you or an action is performed, you, with your ego-self, which is predominantly body and mind, you react to that word or that action. When another, questions you about your reaction, you answer: "I was angry. I was
hurt. I was irritated. I was scared. I was happy. " All these, dear ones, are feelings. They arise only when the physical body and mind react with the help of the Ego-Self.  When Ego reacts to that word, to that action, this reaction comes first from the mind. It is not the body that reacts first, dear ones. It is the mind. And the first reaction of the Mind is a release of a particular chemical.  This chemical is transmitted into the physical body system, which then makes use of the physical ‘heart’ which is the storehouse of feeling and each chemical that is released will result in that feeling that comes uppermost. So it might be anger, or fear. It might be irritation, it might be happiness.

When no chemical is released at all, it is in that moment of non-reaction, that emotion is allowed to come up and be expressed through the spirit. It is a direct response of your spirit that brings forth emotion. When there is emotion, the Mind does not come into play, does not release any chemical. And because the Mind does not release any chemical the physical does not react. So little one, when you say that people are very emotional, they are not. They are, yes certainly ruled excessively be feeling.  The more you are ruled by feeling, the more you are ruled by your ego-self.

Now why are some ruled more by feeling than others? Is it because they are more ruled by Ego and the other is more ruled by Spirit?  No. Both are ruled by Ego. And both are ruled by Feeling. And now here is a little twist.  The chemical that is released in the brains of some is different from that chemical released in the brains of others. For one who has conditioned the physical mind and body to be intellectual, to be only knowledge-oriented, the chemical that is released will be one which will suppress any reactive feeling that can be easily expressed. Then which feeling does this one express? (Because it is a feeling; there has been a chemical release and therefore a feeling must come up with the action of the physical.  But what is this feeling?) This feeling is one that is consciously put on by the physical. It is a feeling of either indifference or one of superiority.  Superiority is a feeling. Indifference is a feeling. It is not a lack of caring. But it is expressed in a manner that is so completely different, so completely
the opposite of the manifestations of other feelings that you will be led to believe that ‘there is no feeling’.

Now let’s turn our attention to Emotion. Which is the only Emotion that
there is?

All: Love!

My wise ones! Love is the only ‘Emotion’. And that is why it is sometimes called the only true emotion. Little ones, there is no true and false; it is an emotion. All others are feelings. But how often have you told yourself: ‘I feel loved’? You have spoken the truth. You feel loved. A chemical has been released in reaction and therefore the emotion of love is absent and this feeling that you call ‘love’ has come to the fore. Then what is this feeling?  It is attachment! You can never feel love.  You can be love. You can love.  But you cannot feel love. You can feel attachment, yes. And that is why you claim to love your children. But when you look at another child that is not your own, there is no love; because dear ones, what you feel for your child is
attachment. And you do not feel this attachment for another. If the spirit responded to all, with the only Emotion there is and that is love, you would not be able to control yourself, little ones, you would love all.

Take a minute of silence now to ask yourselves: Am I love?  Have I ever loved or have I only felt bonds of attachment?  And yet it is not true that you have never loved. But when you have been overcome by this emotion of love so great for another, that it truly goes beyond the bonds of attachment, in fact at times there is no attachment, and yet there is this over-powering all-suffusing emotion of love that pours out from you. Those moments are when your soul due to its ever present connection with its Spirit recalls brief and yet complete moments of love shared by your Spirit and the Spirit of another. And this memory brings this overpowering ‘emotion’ which you call ‘a feeling’. But it is not a feeling; because it is not a reaction, but a response.   Love transcends attachment. Love cannot be restricted. Feeling can. Love cannot be suppressed. Feelings can.

Now let us discuss something that is very important for you to understand.  When the chemical is released, when it is transmitted into the physical, it demands expression. It demands expressing as feeling. When this feeling is suppressed, remains unvoiced, unexpressed, there is a reaction to this suppression. What is the reaction? The same chemical gets released in larger and larger volumes, demanding expression.

(The medium suddenly began to cough and asked for water before resuming)

The chemical release demands expression. Did you all notice what we did? The chemical will be expressed through the physical.  We gave you a small example: (referring to the coughing fit that had overcome the medium very suddenly). The physical must express it.  Does it always express through the throat?  No. the throat in this child is a weak physical area and all suppression will first attack the weakest part. All have their weak areas: Head, eyes, throat, mouth, heart, lungs, stomach, liver, spleen, joints, feet, back, skin, and hair – yes hair.

And yet this ‘expression’ does not completely remove the chemical that has been released into the physical.  A part of this chemical is absorbed by all the organs and it builds up over time. Sometimes the organ completely stops functioning. Sometimes this chemical gets into the cells and changes their composition entirely and you get a manifestation of what you call cancer. Feeling must be expressed till as long as you have not been able to overcome feeling. We will not go into how to overcome feeling because we have at length discussed ego and self. But feeling is nothing but a reaction of the chemical. Son does this answer your question?

Yes sir. Very clearly. I was wondering, do we need to control feelings or should we . . . .

Never control feelings, because control leads to suppression. But, little one, you can control its expression! Freely express the anger, without rage and aggression. Freely express the fear, without becoming a victim.  Freely express happiness without being caught in its limited illusion.

What do you mean by the last statement about happiness?

Happiness, little one, is dual. It comes with unhappiness. And when you are trapped in its illusion, all you will seek is happiness, without the true realisation that with happiness you will get unhappiness. What you need to seek is joy.  That is truth and no illusion.

This feeling of hurt; is it necessary to talk about it or is it OK if you don’t talk and express it?

You have misunderstood. We did not say that the only form of expression and release is to talk.  But if that is your way, it is the way you must follow. And yet it is not the only way. It is an easier way certainly and for some this way of expression gives a complete release of the chemical. And if that is so, this way must be followed. But there is another, a more difficult way. That is to express it to that person or to yourself, without the use of words.

Let me lead you all through a small exercise that will make our
statement clear. Stop gazing with the physical eyes and to turn your sight inwards. When you have turned your sight inwards, look carefully and pinpoint that one feeling in you that is uppermost at all times.  In some it might be fear; in some it might be anger, in others it might be rejection.  Only you will be able to pinpoint this uppermost feeling when you look inwards. Now that you have focussed upon the feeling, look with your ‘inner eye’ and see the image of one person who is able to bring out in you, this feeling. When this image has become clear, again look within yourself and from the past suppressed memory, bring out one incident that you shared with this person, which resulted in this feeling that you are focussing upon.

Now we are going to ask you to do what your mind will rebel against. We are going to ask you to re-live that incident in all clarity again. Do not delude yourself, do not try to be holy and wise and say that you do not feel this. Permit this base feeling to be felt in all completion. When you have felt it, now with your inner eye become your physical self. With your inner eye become your physical self and react with that
inner eye in that same physical manner that you wished you had, but you had suppressed. If you wished to push this person away, because this person causes fear, give a mighty push!  If you wished to physically hit out against this person, which you did not do then, do it now. Did you wish to say something to this person, which you had suppressed; say it now. In whatever way you desire, completely express the feeling.

(To a visitor) Yes dear one we can see that two have made their appearance in your image. Let both be present.

Having completely expressed this feeling in all its entirety, we now ask you, with the inner eye to leave your physical self and with the inner eye to look upwards and a little to the right. And there you will perceive either clearly or in a haze your Higher Spirit self. Link to that Higher Spirit self and command the Spirit self to fill you as a
physical being with the emotion of love.  With the inner eye, look into your physical heart and see it expand as this love fills it. Now you must take a conscious free will decision; to either release this love and engulf this person, or not. Do not force yourself to take this step unless you are completely ready or you will once again face the consequences of suppression. When it is done, you may now gaze outwards with your physical eyes and be aware this world of illusion around you.

How can one be in love at all times?

One cannot be ‘in love’. Because dear one, if you had to be ‘in love’, you would first have to separate yourself from the love. When you are ‘in the water’ you have to separate yourself from the water and only then can you be in it. Instead strive to be love. Then you are one. Then you are your spirit self. And to attain that stage takes a very long process, transcending physicality. In order to transcend physicality, one has to transcend feeling. In order to transcend feeling one must first express completely all that is suppressed. It is a long process. But start!

Sir, may I ask please, how the chemical is released by the brain?

By the pineal gland.

Are different chemicals released depending on the catalyst?

The reaction works as that catalyst. The pineal gland reacts to that catalyst and the chemical that is released due to at that reaction, and changes its composition. This change in the composition brings about the feeling. Sometimes the catalyst might remain the same, and yet the chemical that has been released due to a change in its composition, will not result in fear, but in anger. This same chemical, little one, sometimes gets released and results in acts of bravery, which the physical mind and body of that person is not quite capable of. Where did this feeling of bravery arise? The chemical.  This works best in instances when parents wish to protect their young ones. The chemical that is released is a spontaneous reaction. The ego-self does not
pre-decide which chemical must be released.

Sir, I go through feelings of anger and impatience off and on. Today when I did the exercise, the emotion that was uppermost was just peace. I saw nothing but love in myself. Is it a delusion or an emotion that I have tried to suppress?

The question has been answered by you.

Sir even when we say that we love somebody very dearly and genuinely, there is always an element of expectation.

Little one, the feeling is part of attachment. Attachment is very closely linked to expectation.  Why do you attach?  Because you expect. The two cannot be separated.

I just want to know, when you don’t have the freedom to express feelings at home should we immediately go and do this exercise in a corner or our room?

Do you need a corner?   (Laughter) Anywhere you want, where you are safe, secure. Where your Ego-state will permit itself to sit aside for a little while and to turn inwards.

I want to ask, when we hear this expression I am loved, what does it mean I am loved?

Who is ‘I’?

I (Laughter)

‘I’! ‘I’! (showing the unity of self with the universe)When this vastness is experienced there will not be any question.

Love, little ones, is an emotion that we cannot express to you in words. It can only be experienced.  It is a state of being. It is not restricted to one or two.  It is not felt.  It is ever-expanding. Love is a state of being.  You cannot attempt to be in this state. You can attempt to remove the barriers. When there is an attempt or an endeavour that is made, the physical must be involved.  In the state of love the physical disappears. And not because it has been overcome by love but because it just gives itself up into this nothingness of everything that is love.  It is an experience and the experience is so vast and magnificent that we have no words to describe it. The reason is that this experience goes beyond the comprehension of the mind. Why does it go beyond the comprehension of the mind? Because when this state of being is experienced the mind has already lost itself.  How can it then comprehend?

When you have to communicate with someone you need to arouse the emotion from the person who you are communicating to, in order to be sure that you are successfully communicating, what is the art of arousing emotions?

When you, little one, can arouse emotion within you, you can do that to others. But remember, to arouse something within you, you are considering yourself distinct from that emotion. Love is the only emotion. Do you wish to be distinct from it? For effective communication you need to experience a brief moment of ‘love’, when you are love. In that brevity of moment you will communicate all to another. If you require intellectual communication then what you need to arouse is the correct ‘feeling’ little one. And then you should choose your words with care.

Sir why do people undermine what you do? You are doing things with good proper intentions and things are twisted around . . . .

And what does that make you feel?

That makes me feel dejected – definitely . . . .

Little one, just as your Ego-Self is at work all the time, so also is the Ego-Self of others. Why waste your time sitting in judgement over another’s Ego-Self? Why ask these questions? Why does the Mind want to feel ‘liked’? Why is there a need to be ‘validated’?  Little one, can you see your own Ego at work? This time can be spent in working upon your own Ego. Another must be given full freedom to express their
Ego-Self. And when intentions, all my dear ones, are good, why does it matter to the Ego-Self if they are outwardly validated or they are twisted. Do your intentions become good only if another validates them? Why do you feel dejected, when there is no validation? Are you all able to clearly see how your Ego-Self is at work here? Transcend the Ego loved ones. Transcend.

Feelings like peace are clearly positive .. . are they therefore – are they also caused by the needs of the physical … and are they of a higher order than other . . .

Certainly. But what you speak about is ‘peace’ little one but is not peace.  Like Love, peace cannot be felt. What you feel is a sense of calm. And yes. Because thephysical manifestation is one that permits positive energy to be welcomed in your auric field, they are certainly of a higher order.