HONESTY WITHOUT HURT

This is a lesson you all need to learn. You think you are being honest but what you really are is hurtful . There is a way of voicing the truth. We will never advocate dishonesty nor do we advocate causing pain to another. So before you speak here is a simple technique. Before you speak to another (dead or alive) and if you have something unpleasant to convey, take a paper and pencil and write down what you have to convey, but (and this is important) when you write it down do not remember the person you wish to convey it to… those words must be conveyed to you. Now read those words. Do they hurt you? Do you think this one word could be changed for a slightly milder word? Once you have reviewed, and honestly reviewed, what you have written then use those words to tell the soul and remember always, always before you tell something unpleasant to another, say something else which is very important. Tell the person how much you love that person. Make the person secure in your circle of love. You may do this physically and that is so good.

This is important especially for the little ones. When unpleasantness is to be told to them, encircle them and then gently point out the error, not that they are bad but that the particular word or action was wrong. Do you how many of you when you honestly point out the truth to others do it so insensitively that the error is forgotten instantaneously and what is left behind is a feeling of not being loved. You don’t want to do that. So make a person feel loved completely and very gently point out the error or tell the person of your anger, your guilt, your bitterness or whatever unpleasantness you wish to convey, and believe me, my children, the unpleasantness will dissolve.

Now you may question “ If I am angry how will I be able to convince the person that I love him when at that time I sincerely and honestly feel no love for him?” Master this. ( pointing to the head/mind) Before you reveal these feelings to the concerned person enslave this, enslave this today and let the heart open. Then in your gravest anger there will be no rage, in your bitterest mood there will be love. Free yourself from the bondage of this master and there will be no inner anguish.

Do you know what is anguish, my children? It is anger, nervousness, grief unspoken, insecurity, selfishness and hate. Anger, nervousness, grief unspoken, insecurity, selfishness and hate. Now ask yourself do wish to feel anguish? Or do you wish to release it? The means of release have been explained to you.

Q: Sir, if the person you feel this for is not a loved one how do you do this?

(At this sir tapped ------ head several times and answered)