TRANSCENDING THE SELF

Transcending the self..this is a message I have long been waiting to give you , but one you which you were not ready to hear till now. What does transcending mean? It means going beyond, crossing over certain set boundaries; boundaries that you have set for yourself. These are the physical boundaries that you have set. Physical because they pertain to everything that is exclusively in your world. What you need to do is to break those boundaries so that the demarcation between your world and ours fades away. You are still not clear about what I mean.

Take a tree standing in an open field. It is being what it is meant to be----- a tree. It grows, spreads its branches, and gives fruits and flowers, and shelters birds and animals and all those who require it. But does it force the passerby to sit beneath its boughs so that it can give him shade? Does it force the hungry to pluck its fruit and eat it? Does it insist that others see it for what it is so that it can then call itself a tree? No, it does not. This is because it has transcended its self. And it is a creation that is so much less ‘knowing’ than you. And yet it is sad to see that the higher up the physical evolution chain the life form is, the less it is able to transcend its physical self. The physical takes on such an importance and significance that it seems to then have a life of its own and this life completely engulfs the real LIFE. Humans, being on the top of the chain, begin to think that the physical is all there is. And yet, the more importance they give this physical, the less gratification they seem to receive. So starts the constant cycle of going nowhere to catch nothing.

To transcend, therefore, means to merely BE what you are meant to be in this lifetime.

Be a mother and do not look for this confirmation from your children. Isn’t that why ‘mummy’s’ views are always to be followed by children? Isn’t that why children must blindly love and adore their parents? …….Because through these empty actions , desires and compulsions you ascertain your being a mother.

Be a wife and do not look for this assurance in your husband’s eyes. Isn’t that why so many relationships frown upon the having of other close friends? Isn’t that why the presence of another person in your partner’s life makes you insecure and afraid?

Be a friend and don’t wait for your friend to tell you how much he values you as a friend. Isn’t that why you so desire to do things for your friend? Isn’t that why sometimes the game of ‘I depend on you, you depend on me’ is played?

Do you see the futility in all this? Does this not seem an endless waste, so desolate, so lonely, and so meaningless?

Just BE who you are. If you are a parent, you must be a parent to all children because that IS WHO YOU ARE. If you are a friend, that is who you must be to all because that IS WHO YOU ARE. If you are a lover, you must love all because that IS WHO YOU ARE.

And as it is impossible for you to be anything without another confirming who you are , you so greatly fear the loss and death of those near you .

If you lose your child, do you stop becoming a mother? If your husband leaves, does this make you less of a wife? If your friend turns away his face, does this stop you from being who you are? If your parents are no more, does this stop you from being a child? If your sibling deserts you, do you become less of a sister than you already are?

These questions will be answered ‘yes’ at present because you need to see the confirmation of who you are in the eyes of another . Transcending the self means to see it only in your heart, and to KNOW that no one can take away this precious gift from you ……the gift of being who you have chosen to be.

But how can you do this if there is constant insecurity and fear within you? When you doubt all that you do and believe it only when another gives you his belief, you will always look outward for this gratification. And why do you need it? So that you in the physical form feel that you have been whoever you have wanted to be. If you were completely one with the soul you would not need this kind of physical gratification at all.

You all take this one step further. Not only can you not go beyond your own physical selves but also you certainly cannot go beyond that of others. The ideas of revenge, suppression, abuse, neglect, boastfulness, gloating over the weakness of others, and humiliation, all stem from this. You see the physical form of the person, you hear the words physically spoken, and you see the deeds physically done. If you could transcend this and go beyond, you would see the face of a dear beloved behind a cruel husband, you would experience the love of the ages behind the hard exterior of a tyrant, you would hear the words of a gentle mother behind the abusive tones of an enemy, you would know the truth, as it really is, behind every painful word, or action that you experience. You would then not see the pain the person causes you, but the help the person is rendering you. But is this possible when in your hearts you are harboring anger , prejudice , biased opinions , and other such deadly venoms ?

It is seemingly easy to understand all that I have said, with your intellect. But the next time an angry word comes up to your lips, will you recall this? Will you transcend your physical self and the other person’s so that the communication is only from one soul to another soul? No, my child, it is not easy and it was not meant to be so. That is why you were given a physical form. A mountain is placed before you so that you can conquer your fear of heights and climb it. A river gets flooded in your path so that you develop the faith in yourself to find the ford and cross the river. A wall of flames erupts before you so that you feel the heat, know the danger and look for means to save yourself and others. Are any of these tasks easy? No. Impossible? Certainly not. Neither is the one that I set to you now.

Try and try very, very hard to transcend the self just ONCE every single day of your life, till as long as you are in the physical form. This is the task before you, the mountain, the river, and the fire. The first step is to be able to transcend the self to have faith in your soul, faith enough to know that you can do this task and will not fail. It may be easier if you knew that HE who has no self and yet is all SELF, has faith in you.