10th Sept.,2000
Good afternoon children. The master is not here today but his blessings are upon each one of you. Let us at once go into the meeting and leave all questions for the end if time permits. We do not wish to exceed the time set as was done the last time that we met. Which one of you children is here to ask the questions?
Ernie: Ever since my husband died I have been in inner anguish. I wish to know how he is.
My child your husband is right here with you. We will permit you a few moments to talk with him, if you desire, in silence and if you desire, voice it aloud. If his guides permit or if he has any message I will deliver it to you.
(There was silence for a while)
He has found his peace my child. Now you must find yours. Let us continue with the meeting.
This child has no further questions but we can see her inner anguish and it would be a good topic for today if all the sitters permit . If there is any sitter who wishes to discuss another subject please speak now.
Zafar: I was reading about the healing technique that you gave last time . I wish to know is there another technique to be followed for animals?
My son each one, whether animal or plant or human has a Christ centre. It is developed most in the human species and as such the Christ centre and the green light are the only two tools that you require to heal. If you are a plant lover and if every morning you surround your plant with green light, in ten days you will see a distinct change in your plant. Remember my son, all healing is love . You may not use exactly the method set by me, that was just a suggestion. What is important is the green light of your love accompanied by a true desire to help another because in another you have seen our Lord. That is all there is to healing.
Zafar: Thank you sir.
Yes children, let us deal with this discussion of inner anguish, anger, bitterness, shame, guilt and all the other feelings that well up in your heart at the departure of a loved one. My children it is very important to know that you must, and I repeat you must, give full freedom to these feelings to be voiced. Do not think as many of you wrongly do, that when a loved one has passed away you must stop all the bitterness that was there in your heart when the loved one was alive. My children you all are evolved but none so evolved that there is no bitterness in your heart. The only way to be rid of bitterness and anger is to give it freedom of expression. It is not wrong to say that I am angry with my husband who is dead; I still have feelings of bitterness for my father who is no more; I still do not find it in my heart to love a relative or a family member who is no more. If you do curb these feelings it will be a lie, one which you will have to bear the consequence of. Many of you, due to social conditioning and inner inhibitions, feel that it is not correct to talk ill of one who has passed on. My children it is wrong to talk ill of any soul ,where a soul resides is immaterial . ‘If the soul resides here then I can give myself permission to talk ill of him, think ill of him, do ill to him, but as soon as the soul resides elsewhere I will then talk only good of him:’ First that is wrong because if you have to talk good of someone, think good of someone, do good to someone, do it in his presence, do it for him when he is with you in the physical form. Don’t wait till it is too late. And yes, being human you will err in this way very often, and if you have erred, you now have two pathways before you. If the bitterness is still there within your heart bring that person before you and say
" Dear one, I know you are no more with me in the physical form but the anger that I feel I must now convey to you. I do not wish you to be harmed by this anger nor do I wish this anger to harm me and therefore I must give it words. If it lies within me it will harm me and you and because I dearly love and see within you the spark of God I know that you and I together will overcome this anger." Tell the loved one the reason for this anger, bitterness, pain, guilt. Do it again and again till this poison leaves your system. If there is something unpleasant in your home will you sweep it in a corner and pray that it will go away? Or will you sweep it out yourself? These feelings that you harbour within are dirt. Don’t push them into a corner and pray to our Lord to take them away. Our Lord has not put them there, how can he take them away? You created the dirt and now you ask our Lord to sweep it away for you. You must sweep it because once you do that the dirt will not return again. So be brave, be honest. Do not think that because the physical body is no more the soul has changed. All of you seem to think that as soon as the physical body decays the soul now has the right to the greatest reverence that you can feel. Why? Does this mean that you were looking for so many years at the physical body and not at the soul? Then shouldn’t you be looking beyond? And if you have been looking beyond and seeing the soul, then the soul is the same. Just as you have harmed the soul that soul has also harmed you and because both you and the soul are at a certain level of evolution you will in a natural course of events feel all these unpleasant feelings. These are not bad, they are not wrong, they are natural and if you are uncomfortable with them you must make the effort to change what you find uncomfortable. If the room within this house is dirty, untidy, not kept in order, and if the owner of the house shuts the door and says, ‘I will not look at it’, and then opens it after five years thinking that his five years of prayer will have miraculously cleaned the room, the owner of the house is in for a very unpleasant surprise. Not only will the room be in the same mess, but because it has not been looked at for five years, it will be even dirtier. So that is not a solution. Hiding is never a solution. Acknowledge every feeling that you have, and acknowledge it with honesty. If you feel anger, acknowledge it completely; if you feel dislike acknowledge it completely. When you acknowledge these feelings and in your heart there is a sincere desire to wipe out these feelings , you will be able to do this .Slowly, yes, but certainly .
Now you may think that I am advocating anger and bitterness towards those who have passed on. I am doing no such thing. I am merely putting out to you an obvious, plain fact that the soul remains exactly what is was here, even when it has passed on. The anguish you feel within is because so many of you in spite of all wisdom, look at this (physical body) and you give it so much importance. The soul is always with you. Do you think that only you experience anger? Do you know that if a soul has been angry with you when alive, it will be angry with you even when it has passed on? Oh yes, my children, do not think that your loved ones who pass over suddenly become angelic and are filled with love. No, no, no. Love and forgiveness come so much later. First the soul has to learn . It sees its errors, it takes a step behind, it takes a step ahead. It falters, it falls, it picks itself up, and then there is love and forgiveness. And this the soul can do because when there is no physical body there is no hiding from anything because with your physical body comes the physical mind which permits you to hide behind it. The soul has no mind to hide behind.
What are earthbound spirits my children? They are those souls that still feel the anger, the material desires, the envy, the jealousy, the hatred and bitterness…..all this the souls still feel. That is HELL my children that is HELL. And these souls are not ready to look at the error of their ways, they are not ready to give up these feelings, they are not ready to accept their soul state. So they stay where they are, neither here nor completely with us, and they suffer. Oh, how they suffer. But, as was told to you the last time, we who love them so dearly, and who suffer with them so keenly, we stand aside and we respect their decision. But we wait, we wait for one moment of light when the soul might be in doubt "Should I move on or should I stay this way?" We wait for this one moment of doubt and then we move in and we show the soul that there is love, that the soul need not suffer any more. And very often, but sadly not always, we are successful. And every soul that comes with us from out of this self-made hell , there is joy because one more soul has started again on its journey forward. So you see my children souls do not forget, and of course they don’t, because if they did what would be the purpose of all that they have suffered in their lives? They remember so that when they remember and see their actions, and hear their words and can actually see their thoughts, without the chains of the physical mind, the soul is able to look and see where it has erred. And then the soul decides to take one error at a time and work it through…one error at a time. It takes a long time for all errors to be worked out completely. But that is not what all souls opt to do. Some souls, yes, decide that they will not do any other task but, what they decide to call a repentance and this is completely encouraged and supported, but there are some souls who will decide that ‘along with this personal work I will also work for other souls around me’. Again that is their decision and it is respected .
Your husband, my child, (Ernie) has taken no decision as yet. At present he is merely at the stage of reviewing his life. He is looking at it from his very first moment of birth and this procedure will take him some more time, but there is a genuineness in him to look at his every word, every deed and every thought, with complete openness and honesty. It is difficult for him because there are many, many things that this son of mine regrets, and sometimes the regret makes him sad and this is good. We permit that to happen because in that sadness there is a knowledge, there is a wisdom that is forming, and he will never do again that which he regrets. So at present, whenever he is awake, he looks, he understands. He is surrounded by his friends who give him hope and courage and share their own experiences with him so that he his not deterred. After this is over, he will take a decision whether he would like to work for himself and others, or only for himself. Both options are regarded as his and therefore respected.
Now how does your inner anguish delay this process? Yes, delay this process. And this is to be paid attention to by all. When you hide from your feelings, when you refuse to acknowledge your feelings, you delay the process of your loved ones. Your loved one has a vision keener than yours. He can see the anger within you, feel the guilt harbored in your heart, share the bitterness of your loneliness, and by doing this you bind them to you. You do not permit them to change their errors completely. So if you wish to truly help your loved one, as soon as the loved one passes on, first feel grief completely. You must feel grief .I am not talking of tears which are sometimes shed to show the world . I am talking of grief that eats up your peace of mind. That must be vent because grief is the strongest chain that you hold your loved one back with. So grieve completely because the more you grieve with an openness of heart, the sooner the grief will let go of you and your loved one. Once this grief is spent, then review the true feelings that you feel for this loved , departed soul. And do this just as you did with grief. Give vent completely. Yes, your society may not accept this. But then, my children, your society does not accept us. So don’t go and tell everyone that you have bitterness in your heart for the one who is dead . That would not be very wise. But with those who are close to you, with those who will understand, have the courage to talk about these feelings. When you voice them aloud they leave you at once. If you feel you have no one close who will listen or understand, you have one person….. your higher self and your Lord. Sit with yourself and, as I said earlier, with your departed soul and give voice to all these feelings, and be honest, but don’t be hurtful.
This is a lesson you all need to learn. You think you are being honest but what you really are, is hurtful . There is a way of saying the truth. We will never advocate dishonesty nor do we advocate causing pain to another. So before you speak here is a simple technique. Before you speak to another ( dead or alive) and if you have something unpleasant to convey, take a paper and pencil and write down what you have to convey, but, (and this is important) when you write it down do not remember the person you wish to convey it to….. those words must be conveyed to you. Now read those words. Do they hurt you ? Do you think this one word could be changed for a slightly milder word ? Once you have reviewed, and honestly reviewed, what you have written then use those words to tell the soul and remember always, always before you tell something unpleasant to another, say something else which is very important. Tell the person how much you love that person. Make the person secure in your circle of love. You may do this physically and that is so good. This is important specially for the little ones. When unpleasantness is to be told to them, encircle them and then gently point out the error, not that they are bad but that the particular word or action was wrong, Do you know how many of you, when you honestly point out the truth to others, do it so insensitively that the error is forgotten instantaneously and what is left behind is a feeling of not being loved. You don’t want to do that. So make a person feel loved completely and very gently point out the error or tell the person of your anger, your guilt, your bitterness or whatever unpleasantness you wish to convey, and believe me, my children, the unpleasantness will dissolve.
Now you may question that if I am angry how will I be able to convince the person that I love him when at that time I sincerely and honestly feel no love for him? Master… this ( pointing to the head/mind)is your master then not you. So before you reveal these feelings to the concerned person enslave this, enslave this today and let the heart open. Then in your gravest rage there will be no anger, in your bitterest mood there will be love. Free yourself from the bondage of this master and there will be no inner anguish. Do you know what is anguish, my children? It is anger, nervousness, grief unspoken, insecurity, selfishness and hate. Anger, nervousness, grief unspoken , insecurity, selfishness and hate. Now ask yourself do you wish to feel anguish? Or do you wish to release it? The means of release have been explained to you.
Ernie: Sir, if the person you feel this for is not a loved one, how do you do this?
(At this sir tapped Ernie’s head several times and answered)
Bondage (to the mind)….there is no soul that is not a loved one… this ( the mind) distinguishes between love and not loved. All, all are joined by only one thing… love. My child that should answer your question.
Syrus: Sir you talk often of the importance of controlling the mind. Why have you made it so difficult for us to control the mind?
My dear, dear son review your life, review all your achievements, your attainments. Did you get any of these without effort? And these were such insignificant earthly achievements. You did not mind making the effort then my son. This effort my son you are making for your soul. You are a soul, and like all souls you wish to move, get promoted, you want to have achievements. "I attained this’, but you wish to do this as a soul. As a soul the greatest hurdle you face is the control of the mind. The greatest of masters have taken several lifetimes to accomplish this, because that is the only hurdle. When the soul first disjoins from the whole it asks only for permission of the whole to experience all the wisdom that the soul already has. How will the soul experience this if it doesn’t first forget it? The lord supplied the mind for this. Don’t forget that you took this decision as a soul and the lord agreed. It is very difficult to enslave the mind. All of us, Masters and guides, have lived lives that are sometimes so evil, base and materialistic and we needed this in order to learn the lesson that there is only one true Master and that is THE GREAT ONE. It is then very simple to enslave the mind because with every action and word you ask yourself who is holding the reins, he (the mind) or HE ? Your work will be done, but this is not easily done.
Syrus : When the soul crosses over to our side it wishes to overcome all its faults and weaknesses. But if it does not have any recollection then how is it to know what it has to overcome ?
The soul does not forget. It is at this time that the physical mind is provided. Here there is an anomaly. You want to learn but you are not able to recall. Remember everyone’s lessons are the same. You do not recall the specifics, the details. This child feels a tremendous anger for some individuals. She does not remember. This anger is due to a past unpleasant experience and must be overcome. Everyone knows their own weaknesses and faults. These are your lessons to be learnt. It is only necessary to know your weaknesses. You have come with your weaknesses in order to overcome them. It is not necessary to have the memory of who or what you were. Sometimes if it will help we permit it. It is wrong to say that you do not remember. Why should you remember the details? What have you to learn from that ? Your experiences of the past made you feel an anger against someone. Today you may vent the anger onto this soul. You do not remember which soul, but the anger itself. So you do know.
Syrus : But there are so many people who keep repeating their mistakes and adding to their karmas.
Yes, every few years the earth goes through cycles, from good to bad, from good to bad. Why ? In our world there are souls who have evolved to high planes and souls who are still at the lower planes. These bad cycles are there for the lower souls to experience. There is no evil the way you consider it. When surrounded by their own mistakes they can see their own mirror images and learn from this and let the soul move on. This time of bad is very necessary otherwise the souls at the lower planes of evolution would not get the correct environment to learn from. But not all learn. But that is OK. They will learn the next time around. When there is no Time itself, why are you in a hurry? If the soul does not wish to learn today, we will respect it and we will wait for that one moment of light. When we find the one moment of light we will see that all our energies are manifested to show the soul the way. The good times are cycles required for the higher souls to move ahead. Their purpose is to come here and to help and love and guide. They must also be given their time. When the bad is to give way to the good these souls will be born. So there will naturally be a time of growth and peace. But these souls must also grow. These cycles must continue because they provide every soul with a chance to grow.
Syrus : In the present times, humanity and spirituality seem to be crushed by wrong and evil ?
You used the right word, "seem to be". There is no evil and there is nothing to crush. Only a person gone wrong. Have you not made mistakes, my son ?
Syrus : Yes, Sir. Many.
Because your mistakes have not been considered grievous by society you do not have the title of evil. For us an error is simply that, … an error. We do not see it as small or big. We love the person even more since the person recognises his mistake. Each one of you must take the responsibility for, what you call, evil flourishing. It flourishes because when you say that the person is evil, you give that person no chance to grow. We give you chance after chance and the Lord forgives you all your errors. You give none. So you are also responsible for what you term evil. If you do not consider it as evil there will only be a person who has made mistakes different from your own.
(at this point Sir made everyone join him in a prayer that recognised that each one’s soul was one and therefore other’s errors are our errors and thus asked God for forgiveness.)
God bless you all.
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