What a beautifully innocent question. But before we answer that let us understand what friendship is. Friendship is a complete acceptance of another, regardless of any judgment. When you look at friends you are not lying to them, because if you are, then you are not a friend. A friend looks and sees it all, the black areas, the white areas, the grey areas. A friend knows all. Knows. The patterns, the prejudice, the conditioning. A friend recognizes all. He recognizes the pain, the shame, the emotional issues, the psychological blocks, and being all this while, All- Encompassing and All-Knowing, and accepts all. There is no judgment, but there is discernment. So if she is a friend of this child, there will be discernment. She will be able to see, beyond the physical façade. She will be able to hear beyond the physical. She will be able to experience the feeling that even this child may not wish her to experience. And she will discern then whether it falls on a white area, black area, or grey area. And then she will act accordingly. A friend sees all the negatives, and accepts them with as much joy as the positives. A friend does not wish to bring about change.

Let us explain the difference between change and shift.

She may look at this friend and she may see that the negative here is an old pattern of arrogance, and she will not wish to change it because being a friend she has understood that the arrogance is a defense against pain, which she will not attempt to get her to change. She will discern and attempt a shift. What kind of shift? The shift would mean not giving up on your arrogance, but guiding her into seeing, does she need the arrogance? And is there really any pain today or is it only an inner psychological habit that is coming to the fore. Do you understand the difference between change and shift? When you wish to change something or someone, you judge that it is wrong. And in that judgment friendship leaves. So you do not attempt a change because nothing is wrong. A friend sees it all as perfect. But the discernment of a friend will show where the shift can be made which can enhance the growth of the friend.

When you have such friendship, there already is Love. It is already present. Love is the sole (soul) ingredient of friendship. There is no other relationship more ‘free’ than love, than friendship, true friendship. In all other relationships there will be the element of control. A mother wanting to control the child, yes, out of protection, but she wants to control. The father wishes to have control over his family; may not be because he is a tyrant, but because he genuinely cares. A brother taking care, which often translates to control, of a sister. Husband wishes to control wife. In every other relationship, there is the element of control. With control comes change. And children want their parents to change. The husband wants the wife to change and the wife is unhappy with the ways of the husband. In such relationships, there is no friendship.

If a mother is the friend of the child, if a husband is a friend of the wife, if a brother is a friend of the sister, there is no control. There is no change…. only a direction offered to facilitate a shift if the friend desires to make a shift; otherwise you stand up and wait till the friend desires a shift.

You see, beautiful one, friendship can be present in any relationship. If friendship is present in a relationship, that friendship will have the true essence of Love, not attraction, not the need to belong to someone. The all-consuming need to belong to someone immediately points out to an inner quest for self-love, which is missing, and which is thus turned outwards. And then whether that Love grows into another relationship which is romantic in nature, becomes insignificant.

All friendship includes Love, but your question is whether it can lead to another relationship as between two ‘partners’. When a relationship grows out of such friendship it is a Divine relationship, but there is a possibility that when you enter into a relationship of two ‘partners’ or husband and wife, instantly the conditioning of control enters, and friendship leaves. Each one begins to want to control the other, out of insecurity, the need to belong, the need to possess. "Has he stopped loving me?" "Does she need me anymore?" and all these insecurities makes you grab onto the other person. And often the action of grabbing makes both suffer in silence, strangulates the energy framework, and the partner becomes desperate to leave, to be free. If only you could LOVE with arms open, and accept it ALL. A person will never wish to leave, to look at another.

Because it was meant to. Not all relationships can be ‘eternal’, because not all relationships are meant to be ‘eternal’. The experience has spent its energy, and the embrace has become a ‘hold’.

That relationship had to end because both of you desired something completely different. What you desired and what the other desired were diametrically opposite. You came together for a purpose, and you fulfilled it, and it was time to move. Sometimes, beautiful one, when it is time to move, and the energy of the relationship has changed, but you stubbornly hold onto it, the Universe creates, what you call, an unpleasant situation in order to facilitate the parting of ways. Love cannot die, little one, Love cannot die. Do not feel so unloved; we are with you. And though this meeting is not for a personal question, we give you our personal promise that there is someone very, very close, who is waiting in the wings to enter your life in the most beautiful manner. We only ask you to give up the old energy. It is already spent. Strengthen yourself with this beautiful power of Love. Understand that you bid farewell only to the physical presence of the other. Beautiful one, your soul is bonded to the other; you are not bidding farewell to that. You are only letting go of the physical structure. And as soon as that energy dissipates, the other energy is waiting in the wings with arms wide open. Draw upon our strength, dear child. Little, little child, we are with you. Do not be so grieved.

Beautiful, beautiful child. Who has said that you have lost your father? You can’t see him, but you have not lost him. Nothing that is yours by Universal Right can be lost. Your father is here every moment, and of course it is right that you feel him. No, you cannot hold back, what you consider, his progress by that. Souls are here because they desire this. They wish to be here, and that does not mean that they are earth bound. No, beautiful one. That is not an earth-bound spirit. Though your father wishes to be with you, he is not earth bound. He has passed into our realm in the most joyous manner.

Each one of you, not only this sweet child, each one of you will have at least one departed soul of yours who will be with you always. The identity of the soul may change, but you will never be left without the strength and support of a departed soul. Sometimes it maybe the father, sometimes it maybe a grandmother, and at other times an uncle. You need not always experience everything, but you can live with the complete certainty in your heart that at least one departed soul is always with you and will never leave you. In your most painful moments call upon whoever is present and begin talking. Talk as you would if he were there in physical reality.

Beautiful, beautiful child, the physical was not your father. That physical is only a body that he took. Your father is far larger, and more magnificent than that body. Never doubt that. Never, never doubt that. And in times when you need direction and you are confused, call upon them and say "Guide me, very tangibly guide me." You will find that they guide you in no uncertain manner.

The question is, can anyone play anything which is NOT in your blueprint? Every soul you meet, every word spoken, every action taken, every experience of any circumstance, is your blueprint. Of course it is acting out, reflecting your blueprint. The very fact that you are reacting is proof that it is your blueprint here. Else, why would you react? Look around, evaluate your day. What did I react to? And what did I not react to? All your reactions are ‘blueprint’, and all your healthily detached responses are resolution of the blueprint. But they are all blueprint. The fact that you are here today is also blueprint.

Because they are seeking. Because they are seeking. Tell us, little one, why do you look for truth? Isn’t it because you know you are ignorant of a subject? And sometimes it is because of fear. Let us assume you are working in an organization and you do not know... ‘ignorance’… whether your future is secure. Fear. The more and more you search for the truth, the more and more vulnerable you are to your fear. The greater the search, the quicker the fears that are lying in your sub-conscious come up to the conscious mind. They come up for resolution. When there is nothing to think of with the ‘lower conscious’, it means there are no fears left. That doesn’t mean that you have accessed all the truth. You may access no wisdom and no knowledge, and still you may have no search for these within you, because you know once and forever, who you ARE. And then all other ‘truth’ comes to you gradually and slowly because the one greatest truth has already been revealed to you.

Nothing is ‘needed’. You make it so.

Predetermination means that there is someone above you, superior to you, in a position to make a decision for you. And there is no one superior to you because there is no God but you. And who is superior to God? There is no predetermination.

Let us use the example of a cricket match to give you an analogy of Life. 11 players and a few more sitting in the pavilion waiting to enter the field. Field is the physical realm, the ones waiting are the souls waiting to be born. And how do you play this game? 11 against 11, and that is what ‘humanity’ is about. Me against you. That is how you live, your every moment, your every day, on Earth in your earthly realm. You strive to win over another. What a futile victory!! And because it is futile, the cricket match is played again and again and again. If the victory was meaningful, the team that had won would be declared Champion of the Universe. No more cricket!! But because that victory is so futile, it must be played again and again and again, and only the players change. The energy of the play remains the same.

The bowler has the ball and attempts to bowl the day lights out of the batsman. (Laughter) If you wish to know a person, if you wish to know what he is really like, see the way he plays his match. There are those who are good bowlers and bowl with consideration, knowing that it is only a game. But there are those who get caught in the game and wish the other harm so that he may win and the other may lose. And that’s also Life. There are those who wish to only cause harm, because it is the only way they can feel good about themselves, and so they are aggressive and violent and put another down harshly. There are those for whom personal victory is so important, that they can only cause defeat after defeat after defeat to make themselves feel good.

And what follows that? The reaction. How do you react? Sometimes the batsman jumps aside and lets the ball go. Sometimes he gets aggressive and steps out of the crease to hit the ball in anticipation of the actual moment. And that’s Life too.

How do you react to another? Do you step aside and allow another’s need for revenge and power pass you by, without any fear? And the victory or defeat is only reliant on the energy being emanated by each player, moment to moment. No one has predetermined it. It is created there and then. And that is Life too.

Sometimes you create a situation, though not in lower-conscious awareness. You create a situation where as a young child you lose a parent. You created that. You created that. There is no predetermination by any other power because there is no power greater than you. If there was, wouldn’t the Masters be able to change your painful situations? Wouldn’t we, in one stroke, be able to remove war and disease and suffering and pain? We cannot… that’s why we do not. We cannot because your power is equal to our own, and when there are equals, there is respect for choice. And if your world chooses violence, suffering and hatred and war, it must BE. Not because it is predetermined, but because you create it moment to moment.

You created the war in Iraq; you created the famine in Africa. You created. You. Are you not hoarding food and money? When several opportunities come to share your resources, do you give completely freely, all you can? In that hoarding you have created the famine. When someone has caused you deep pain and grief, have you not have sort revenge, though often you prefer to call it ‘justice’? Then in that, you have created the war in Iraq. And now you will question, but I am only one, how can I affect the Universe? When you say I am only one, can you hear the lack of self esteem present within you? Instead say boldly I am the one who will make Earth shift, manifest. And You Will. Because you will create it. No predetermination.

You can play your cricket match the way you wish it. It can be a game of honour among gentlemen, it can be a game of one-man-ship, of you against me, of country against country, of violence against aggression, of abuse and insult. You can make it happen.

There is no life or death game. Who has convinced you of that? Will you die? We ask you that. Will you die? Go on. Unless you answer we cannot go on.

No. Never. How can you die? You are Power, you are Energy, you are Spirit, you are Universe. You do not die. Ah! Yes, you shed, like the snake sheds its skin, like you go home and you change your clothes. Why do you not hold onto your clothes and live in them 24 hours, year upon year upon year? Why not? How quickly you shed your clothes. But this (referring to the body) you hold onto violently. And you call this death, and then you begin to get scared, because you think "I must die." You ask, what is death? And we tell you that is such a foolish, foolish question. How can you die? There is no game. You choose an experience, and once that experience is over you move to another experience.

When you were younger, you chose an experience to go to school. Are you still there? Why did you give up that experience? Experience is over. Are you still in college? Why not? Experience is over. Are you still in touch with a childhood friend? You remember him fondly. Experience is over. When you get tired with this T-shirt, what will you do with it?

Experience is over. When he gets tired of his body he will burn it. And you have given this such importance. You call it death. And that self-created importance, makes you so fearful and it is fear that has asked this question. Why the game of life and death? It is fear that has asked this question. Because out of fear, you believe that when you shed this you will stop Existence. Seeker of Truth, know who you ARE, and rid yourself of all fears.

Of course. Of course. This child (referring to someone) was chosen as a ‘mother’ by her beautiful children. But do you know, and we will tell what she doesn’t know, that she has refused one. She refused. So the soul looked elsewhere for a mother. Of course, you have the right to refuse, most certainly. And very, very often refusal is both ways. And what is wrong in that? There is no judgment passed. You may choose to spend your holiday with one friend and not another. There is no judgment passed. Why do you not ‘trivialize’ issues? Why do you give them such ‘significance’? Make every thing small and trivial. Very light; it is of no importance. (To a sitter) You can do it too. You give so much importance to so many details. And you get so tired. Let them BE.

Never be caught in this deception. Firstly, the colour of the aura is not at all symbolic of spiritual growth. The colour of the aura is only an emanation of the energy in that point of Now. That is it. You may have a person whom you may consider very highly evolved, and sometimes when you look at the aura, it maybe a dark, murky brown, and you will say "No" and you will pass judgment, and another may have a beautiful aura when you see it, but maybe committing deception, criminal acts, but in that moment the aura is beautifully large, expansed, coloured. It is in that moment, but it does not signify spiritual growth or indicate the spiritual journey. Besides that, the colours that you see are not ‘real’. You see what you associate with the colour. So she may associate purple for spiritual growth but he may associate a dark brown. And when he reveals it is dark brown, she will judge it to be a very, very bad, negative aura.

Why must you see a person’s aura? What is the intellectual arrogance involved here, ask yourself? What is the spiritual arrogance involved here? Why do you want to learn to check out an aura? To talk of it? Because everyone is interested. What an attention getter it would be!!! Life and death is not a game; this is. If you wish to know a person’s spiritual progress, then look beyond the ‘person’. Do not, at any moment, pay attention to the person’s words, actions, deeds, thoughts. Neither good, nor bad. Let me ask you a question. Do you judge this child’s (Ellaeenah) spiritual progress as ‘immense’? Why? Because she can channel? That is spiritual progress for you? Anyone can channel. Because she speaks wisely, is that spiritual progress for you? So many speak wisely. Because she gives you love and affection? So many can give you love and affection, if you permit them to. You judge her spiritual progress by the energy emanation. And how do you know that? When you are in her presence do you feel larger, stronger, healthier, more expansed? Then you have experienced more than the ‘person’.

(Smiles at Jim) Are they judging you or me?

Craving – clinging through emotional, physical, spiritual, or mental need. You crave someone’s attention because the emotional need for validation exists. You crave a cigarette, because through that cigarette you can escape reality. You crave the drink, because when you are a little drunk, you do not need to look at all the issues in your life. You crave power, because when you have power you can bully and control another, because you are so insecure within that you actually have no power.

Desire – what do you desire to eat?

He is very complete about his desire. He desires to eat chocolate because he enjoys the taste. What would you desire to wear if you were going to a party tonight?

She desires a beautiful dress, because she wishes to look good. Desire is controlled by the senses; craving by lack, whether the lack is physical, mental, emotional or spiritual. For a diabetic patient the body craves sugar. Physical lack. One who has a mental lack, emptiness, is convinced that "I am stupid." Craves knowledge. That knowledge keeps fruitlessly filling that emptiness. A desire can be fulfilled; a craving can never be fulfilled unless the lack is filled. Then there is no craving; the energy is spent.

How many times, how many times, can we tell you this, and you still do not believe. You are ready now, you were always ready. This child who has attended for the first time is ready. Mediumship is not difficult to attain. Why do you place so much significance to those whom you call mediums? Everyone is a medium. When you cook and the dish has an inspired taste to it, you are a medium; you have channeled through your physical activity, energy. When you drive a car, and win a Formula One race you are a medium through that physical activity. You have channeled the power of the Universe to drive that vehicle at speed which sometimes boggle the normal mind and still be safe and secure; you have channeled. A beautiful painting is mediumship. An inspired piece of music is mediumship. A delicious chocolate is mediumship. Do all chocolates taste the same? Aren’t there some which you desire again and again? What your physical is picking up is not only the taste, but the taste which has been enhanced because of the energy infused into it. How many more times can we tell you, that every single living human being is a channel? You already channel. But you look at this child (Ellaeenah) and you say "No. No. No. I want to channel like her." So what you are asking, dear one, is "when will I be able to channel like her." And we will tell you Never. Why? Not because you are not ready, but because you have not chosen so. You have not chosen so. When you train, you channel. When you heal, you channel. When you explain something to your daughter, you channel. It is all channeling. When you work, you channel. When you teach, you channel. When you breathe, you channel. How much readier can you get? You breathe in prana, Universal Energy, that is channeling.

You want to put us into a spot. (Smiles) We are going to say ‘yes’ and ‘no’. ‘Yes’, it is an emotion, when it is felt by the physical heart. When it is expressed by the physical mind, yes, it is an emotion. But when it is used to live out of, function out of, to BE and to exist as Spirit, then it is a force, and it is a power. So it is both, and you use it as both. When this one looks with utter love at this child, whom she can find nothing wrong with, it is emotion (referring to Ellaeenah and Zafar). But when she experiences it from the fullness of her Spirit, and sees all that he is, was and can be, and accepts it all, that is the power.

How can we explain what can only be experienced? But if you wish to experience it, you may come up here and we will give you the fullest experience. (Two sitters went up to the master to experience the energy of a hug). The experience of an embrace can never be put into words. It is a joy; it is an experience that transcends all that is physical. When anyone is ever in difficulty, uncertainty, doubt, despair and you do not know how to help, give a hug. You do not need to be hugged only by a Master. There are masters sitting next to you. Turn around and experience a hug. And there is one who is the official hug giver (Smiles at Yezad and Jim). Why do you wish hugs from them? Because when they embrace, they channel. They give out the Power of Love. They embrace you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, with a power we cannot explain in words; it has to be experienced. And yet no hug, no embrace, can be as beautiful as the one you give yourself; when there is the emotion of love and the power of love that co-jointly come together to give a hug.

FUCK. There a Master has spoken it. FUCK. If I were to look at you and with deep hatred, hostility and antagonism say the word "God" to you, I would cause you greater harm, than if I were to use "Fuck" without any other intention but as slang. You have given importance to words, and now these same words cause the problems in your energy fields. We have told you time and time again, abusive language causes rifts in your energy field. But not one of you has ever questioned why. It is not the word, it is not the energy of the word; it is the intent, the conditioning of the word. Have you conditioned yourself to believe that the word "Fuck" is an abuse? Then it is. And as soon as that word leaves your mouth or your thoughts, it has caused a rift in the energy field.

Do you consider the word "but" to be an abuse?

Ah! She instantly asked which ‘but’? Can you see how we chose a word with care? His conditioning did not make him think of the word ‘but’, you did. What difference would it have made, had we thought of the word "but" or "butt"? How is a part of the human body something that is abusive? Similarly how can the word "fuck" which is a completely normal human act, be an abuse unless you make it so? Instead of saying ‘your ass’, why do you not say "your eyes"? Or donkey? It is your conditioning and social conditioning that causes the harm in the energy field, not the word itself.

Yes, this generation uses the word "fuck", but your generation used another word. And each generation will use their own peculiar little pet word which the older generation will look aghast at. Again see how you give significance. Trivialize it. It is a word. If you are Christed Consciousness can anything harm you? Then why should a word be given such importance? Any word can become an abuse when the intent behind the word becomes a socially conditioned intent. When more and more and more people use the word with that intent, it becomes an abuse.

Why do not you coin an abuse for yourself? Now take an extremely innocent word.

Use this, all of you. for the next one week, again and again and again with complete intent of abuse. The next time you use the word train, it will cause a great energy rift in you. If the youth use a word which you do not approve of, move away. You can speak to them, if you feel the need to guide them, but you must respect their decision to continue using a word which becomes a pet word of their generation. Each generation must be respected by each other. And words form a very large part of each generation. Or else right now, you would still be saying "Good Sir, what is thy name?" (Laughter) In that generation, if you were to talk to the one you considered superior without the word thy or thine, you would have been imprisoned. "You" was an abuse. "You" was an abuse. Remove the energy of intentions from words. You will find that you will be able to use many more words without causing rifts in your energy field. Take each word that you know is your conditioning or a social conditioning. Take the word, sit with it. You know as a group how you will do this, and remove its conditioned power, remove its intent. Make it neutral. You will have another word which you can use.

Inaccurate. Completely inaccurate. You have said why am I unaware. And we put the question to you, which "I"? Is it that small brain that you function with that is unaware? Or is it YOU, who is the Largeness of Spirit that is unaware? That can never be unaware. The brain chooses to be unaware. The brain has stubbornness, rigidity, does not want you to change, grow, move, expand. Why ? Because the brain is used to giving you certain commands, and if you grow beyond the brain, how will it give you the same commands? So it stops your conscious, your brain-conscious awareness. And therefore an outside source is generally brought in to enhance the brain-conscious awareness. YOU are always aware. You are always aware.

Now if you want to enhance your brain-conscious awareness yourself, instead of with external help, you can do so. Stop thinking of yourself as a physical being with a physical mind of physical body, thoughts, words, actions, deeds. Consider yourself as Spirit. Spirit that lives, Spirit that breathes, Spirit that plays, Spirit that fights, Spirit that eats, Spirit that IS.

Why do you run away from any feeling of love? In fact, why do you run? You run out of fear of attack, do you not? Why are you sitting here so secure? Because there is no fear of attack. But supposing by some magical powers we manifest a herd of wild elephants rushing towards you, we doubt even one of you will stay back to listen to Masterly wisdom. (Laughter) You will run. You will run fast and furious never to return, because there is fear of attack. When you run away from love, when you stop even acknowledging your own feelings of love, there is fear of attack. You have experienced being attacked, emotionally attacked. When you are open to love and you do not wish to experience the attack again, you close yourself. You close yourself so tight that you do not acknowledge even to yourself that you love, because in that statement, you experience the fear of being vulnerable to the attack of another.

An unpleasant childhood does not only harm relationships. An unpleasant childhood is an overall experience. An unpleasant, difficult childhood forms your belief patterns, forms your thoughts, forms your attitudes, forms your defenses. And you never live as an adult. No one ever lives as an adult. The adult that lives is only the child grown up. You are today what you are because you were yesterday what you were. That is why it is so vital that the sub-conscious become part of your conscious experience. It is only when it becomes part of your conscious experience, that it can be resolved, released, and then you become today what you are because you are what you are.

Greetings beloved ones. We warmly embrace you all. We love you all.